Exit Pain – Orgasm

Psychology & Chemicals of Pleasure & Pain

Exit your pain. Orgasm is a well-known cure for some pain. It is a healing burst of biochemicals in your system. 

But pain and pleasure can be confusing for some. Even outside of the B&D, S&M, D&S, and leather communities, pain and pleasure can be very closely tied together. Physical pain can be very disruptive to intimacy. But more often than not, psychological hang-ups, learned emotional needs and unspoken desires could be even worse for someone’s sexual health and experience.

Couple under a new moonPain relief

Pain and sex connect in ways that can be obvious and not so obvious. When a person is in enough pain, sex is probably the last thing on their mind. But an orgasm is healing. Having an orgasm is not just a fun way to spend a night; it also contains a natural way to treat pain. From headaches to premenstrual syndrome (PMS), orgasms can end your suffering.


Sex researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson decades ago described the stages of orgasm.

First, there is Excitement.  The state of desire or arousal when the woman initiates or agrees to sex. She focuses mainly on sexual stimuli with blood engorging the clitoris, vagina, and nipples and creating a full-body sexual blush. Her heart rate and blood pressure increase. Testosterone and neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin are all involved in these processes.

The second stage is the Plateau. Sexual tension builds as a precursor to orgasm with the outer one-third of the vagina engorged with blood. Creating the “orgasmic platform.” Focus on sexual stimuli drowns out all other sensations (including pain). Heart rate, blood pressure, and respiration continue to increase.

Actual physical orgasm is the third stage.  A series of rhythmic contractions occur in the uterus, vagina, and pelvic floor muscles. The sexual tension caused by lovemaking or self-stimulation releases, and muscles throughout the body may contract. The warmth from the pelvis and spreads throughout the entire body.

Lastly, the resolution of the orgasm when the body relaxes. The blood flows away from the engorged sexual organs with the heart rate, blood pressure, and respiration returning to normal.

Wine splash upOrgasm Generation

Blessed with bodies capable of experiencing orgasm in more ways than one, women can learn what works for them. Researchers note there are as many as 12 types of female orgasms. 

The most common type is a “clitoral” orgasm. Clitoral stimulation has been proved the surest route to orgasm. Clitoral stimulation produces the closest analog to male orgasm. 

Vaginal Stimulation & the G-Spot

Some women can also experience orgasm through vaginal stimulation. The G-spot is an area felt through the wall of the vagina, an inch or two behind the back of the pubic bone near the junction of the bladder and the urethra and made up of tissues of the clitoris, urethra, and the female prostate gland. Some researchers believe that when stimulated, the G-spot causes intense sexual pleasure in some women, yet everyone is different

Pathways and Stimulation

Woman with a roseWomen also have been able to have orgasms through stimulation of the breasts or other parts of the body, or through the use of sexual imagery without any touch at all. There is a nerve pathway outside the spinal cord, through the sensory vagus nerve, that will lead a woman to experience orgasm through sensations transmitted directly to the brain. 

Pursue Orgasm

Women who pursuit orgasms were more likely to report that they orgasmed in their sexual encounters. 

Sex and your relationships 

Men and women express intimacy in a life long relationship. For this reason, sex is involved which should be enjoyed at both parties’ convenience. Of course, both couples must enjoy the activity to relieve stress. Some people do not enjoy sex, which causes them stress to think of engaging in intimacy. 

The neurotransmitters that may be released during healthy sex to the mood enhancers contained in semen itself. There is much to be said for the mood-boosting effect of having a nice connection with somebody that you trust and care about. Man and woman kissing in public

Sex results in a serious afterglow than can, in turn, help you bond better with your partner, according to the journal Psychological Science. Newlywed couples who kept a two-week sexual diary, researchers found that partners were satisfied for a full 48 hours after sexual activity. Those who were lucky enough to experience this afterglow went on to report more happiness in their relationship several months later. Better relationships lead to less pain. 

Sex and your mind 

on the water male female kissA photo of your partner helps ease your pain. The study from Stanford University in California showed participants photos of their romantic partners or photos of attractive strangers or asked them to engage in a word game. Looking at romantic partners significantly lowered pain. Just looking at your love makes you feel better. Therefore when you are in love instead of pain becoming a barrier to sex, consider having it. Sexual benefits are worth the time and effort and take a really long look at your lover.

The Miracle cure

An orgasm is “the miracle cure” to staying healthy and balanced. The chemicals involved – dopamine, endorphins, and serotonin are released during an orgasm naturally. They make us feel joy, happiness or even promote sleep according to research at Brown University. Therefore, after orgasm, we are in less pain, flushed, warm, or sleepy. As if we needed research to notice the after-effects.

Hormone Rush

However, thorough research may indeed inform us of the fact that when dopamine, endorphins, and serotonin enter the bloodstream, both pleasure-enhancing and pain-relieving sensations are induced.

Next time pain arises, have an orgasm instead of reaching for an aspirin. Over time our pain threshold raises during an orgasm, making us more equipped to block the pain. This use of sexual stimulation can help us lessen some of life’s more common aches and discomforts.


Next time you have a headache, have an orgasm because, according to published research, it can relieve migraine pain or cluster headaches. The researchers found you get relief no matter who your partner is, which position you use, or which type of sexual activity in which you engage. Achieving a full orgasm is necessary for alleviating the pain.


Monthly cramps can be a debilitating symptom for women. Before an orgasm, a woman’s uterus is more relaxed, but with an orgasm, blood flow increases, helping to relieve the cramps. When uterine muscles contract, chemicals in the brain release that act as natural pain relievers. Sex therapist Judith Golden said it plainly: “The strength and intensity of an orgasm can relieve cramps.” Masturbation relieves menstrual cramps, improves irritability and crankiness that are PMS symptoms.


Hiccups that won’t go away is physically and mentally draining. And painful. There are medical reports relating that men’s ejaculation during intercourse is also a cure for hiccups. That works for women too. When the vagus nerve stimulates during sex, it alleviates hiccups. Try a digital rectal massage, as well as orgasm as a cure-all for intractable hiccups.


Morning sickness

Sex creates morning sickness, but it can also alleviate it. According to Gordon Gallup, ingesting semen, specifically the impregnator semen, so the woman’s body can build up a tolerance to what’s already in her body. With time a woman will become immune to the semen by swallowing it and could ebb morning sickness in subsequent pregnancies if the second child has the same father as the first. This remedy proposes oral sex may treat one of the most troubling symptoms of pregnancy.

Even helps with Labor newborn

Research is exploring the potential of orgasm as a mode of pain relief in childbirth. There are physiological explanations for its occurrence.

Sex and Relaxation 

Amazingly, studies recently showed that those who are actively sexual could reduce stress and pain. This does not mean to run out and have sex with multiple partners, rather this is about engaging in intimate relationships with someone you trust. In recent studies, couples were asked to define how sex relieved stress. According to results, the couples claimed that sex relaxed the mind and body. The couples felt less stress after and during math tests and public speeches they were able to relax and stay alert. 

According to research intercourse relaxed the body and mind. The studies showed that masturbation relieved stress to a degree more so than those who did not engage in such actions did. Still, those who had intercourse relieving stress more so than those who masturbated did. The blood pressure quickly returned to its normal level after intercourse. 

The studies showed that the men and women who did not have sex had a higher blood pressure than those who did. Sex has proven to relieve stress and if you notice that makes sense. 

Easier to Sleep

Woman facedown on bedAfter sex, a person often feels relaxed. During the night, the person finds it easier to sleep. Morning sex is enjoyable, yet it can drain the energy, thus strenuous sex in the wake hours should be avoided. Enjoy mild, soft and passionate sexual relations at this time. 

Sex is relaxing.

If you enjoy sex experts tell us that engaging in this activity twice daily is great exercise and helps to relax the mind and body. 

During sex, oxytocin is released which promotes healthy functions including physiology aspects. Oxytocin assists orgasm and when a person releases through orgasm tension expels from the body. The person feels a sense of relief and less or even no pain if enough oxytocin is released. 

Pain and pleasure

Sexual health can be compromised by painful experiences, particularly during moments of intense physical intimacy. Inflicting pain, whether physical or psychological, is sometimes a component of the S&M community, though it is only an integral part of the “session” in the most extreme cases. Even in such cases, the pain is strictly consensual and is regulated just enough to serve the purposes of both parties and not do any actual damage.

The B&D and D&S communities may also have pain involved, whether emotional, physical, or psychological. All in the belief that pain is vital to pleasure.

Sexual health

Chronic pain, whether physical or psychological, can have incredible effects on a person’s sexual health and performance. Performance can also be affected because your pain provides a distraction for the person, rendering them unable to focus their attention on their partners entirely.

Pain can also serve to reduce significantly desire over the long-term, mainly if the problem is left untreated or not appropriately handled.

Chronic pain and reduced sex drive

When a person is experiencing chronic pain, the psychological drive to have sex can be significantly reduced. For most people, finding a way to relieve the pain takes priority over most other physical needs. With the unconscious putting luxuries like intercourse lower on the list of sensations that the body craves.

Taking painkillers to help fight chronic pain can also have effects, with some pain killers diminishing libido. There have also been reports of certain pain relief products inhibiting sexual health, though such cases are considered rare. Unfortunately, alleviating the problems caused by physical pain is generally possible only once the pain itself ends.

There is another side to this, as psychological pain can be just as debilitating to a person’s sex life and enjoyment as physical signs are. Emotional pain can drive a wedge between two people. Even if both parties are still capable of enjoyment, there is no conscious “desire” to engage the other as a partner.

Sex-related trauma

Cases of childhood sex-related trauma have also stunted the sexual health and development of adults. In people who experienced sexual abuse as a child, sex is not just about sex. Or a person who was sexually assaulted, their experience of sex is likely to be affected. The chemical signals which the brain uses to signal pleasure and response to stimuli are affected by trauma. Mental health conditions like depression and anxiety, making intercourse difficult, if not impossible.

Connection Between Pain and Pleasure Discussions

For the psychological connection between pain and pleasure, most experts advise talking between partners to help sort things out. Preferably, these discussions should occur in what can be considered neutral territory, and participants should be fully clothed. Private locations such as the kitchen or dinner table, when no one else is present, are often suggested.

Fear can often keep couples from talking to one another about what they feel they need out of the experience, but this is often best confronted early on. Through talking, partners may discover “quirks” about their sexual interests that the other is not aware of that may heighten the experience for both parties. The goal here is to provide an avenue of discussion on what might lead to more satisfaction for all involved.

man and woman close in lightRekindling the spark is also a good idea. There are several ways to accomplish this, of course. Some couples attempt to do so by bringing romance into the equation. Others prefer to delve into role-playing sessions or physical exploration that does not involve genital contact or stimulation. There is generally no problem with this, as long as it is consensual.


Sexual Activity, Erectile Dysfunction, and Incident Cardiovascular Events



Energy Expenditure during Sexual Activity in Young Healthy Couples



Viewing Pictures of a Romantic Partner Reduces Experimental Pain: Involvement of Neural Reward Systems



Blood pressure reactivity to stress is better for people who recently had penile-vaginal intercourse than for people who had other or no sexual activity.



Quantifying the Sexual Afterglow: The Lingering Benefits of Sex and Their Implications for Pair-Bonded Relationships



Body Movement Is Associated With Orgasm During Vaginal Intercourse in Women.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/30358427


Anatomy of sex: Revision of the new anatomical terms used for the clitoris and the female orgasm by sexologists.



‘Birthgasm’: A Literary Review of Orgasm as an Alternative Mode of Pain Relief in Childbirth.



The role of women’s orgasm goal pursuit in women’s orgasm occurrence


Published in the journal Cephalalgia pain relief headaches
Published in the journal Canadian Family Physician – 40-year-old stopped hiccups & study on women and hiccups

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