Simplify your journey to a healthy painless life with this 4-step success formula What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. ~Henry David Thoreau Affirmations are a simple way to keep goals in mind. For example, if pain is what you need to address remember this affirmation and say it to yourself frequently – As much as I appreciate my goal of being pain-free – how soon I achieve pain-free living does not define me. Simply practicing pain-free techniques add to my daily habits and happiness, and it will lead to pain-free living. I am obsessed with achieving my pain relief goal. Over the years, I’ve refined my goal setting approach with this success formula. The steps are in the right order and this applies to all types of goals, as long as you stick to the formula. Create a healthy distance between your goal and your self-worth/esteem. The worst thing you can do, that keeps you from achieving your goal, is connecting your identity and self-esteem to your pain relief goal and getting wrapped up in your goal so much that you can’t think or see clearly anymore. For example, have you ever been in love? Were you thinking clearly then? Associating your self-esteem to the end results of your goal is bad no matter which way you lean. Just because you are a perfectionist does not mean you are a better person or a person of higher self-worth. The same is true if you are an under-achiever. So create a healthy distance between your goal and your self-esteem. This way you can set your emotions free so you can think more clearly about your goals. 1. Re-evaluate your pain-free goal and this time, do it in private. You know how some people only set goals with group consensus? Are you one of those people? Checking in with everyone that this is a good idea to embark on? Personal goal setting is not a democracy. You don’t need friends or family to help decide whatever YOU and YOU alone want to achieve in your life. 2. Adopt a new approach to this goal if previous ones have failed. Stop going about achieving your goal the same way, expecting different results. You’ve heard this many times, but it bears repeating because human behavior needs reinforcement of useful logic. So learn from the failure without giving up on the goal by examining the approach now. How did you go about achieving your goal? “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” ~Albert Einstein 3. Get invested in the pain relief process and measure your progress. Have you done all first 3 steps? Only then are you ready for step 4. Learn what works for you. I have a friend who is driven, smart and a big-time achiever but he refuses to commit to dates. He can’t stand deadlines. He is committed to the process instead, not focused on end results. So forget the achievement part for now and shift your focus to the critical areas of process and measurement. Process – The practice of techniques that you take towards your goal of freedom from pain. Your progress – A measuring of the accomplishments you have at each learning each method and technique, a measure of improvement that shows you are moving forward. Combining the process and progress with a focus on breathing, affirmations and prayer/meditation that continuously reminds you about what you are doing RIGHT will lead to freedom from pain into empowered self-healing.